E’ possibile rifiutare di fare da damigella d’onore una volta ricevuto l’invito? O meglio, è possibile tirarsi indietro, dopo aver precedentemente accettato, alla luce delle spese che questo ruolo comporta?

Ecco, rifiutare può risultare scortese in ogni caso: la sposa che si è rivolta a voi con una tale richiesta vi ha omaggiato di tanto venerabile rispetto, affetto, amicizia… insomma è un onore che vi fa proporvi di ricoprire un tale ruolo importante.

Se il problema potrebbe essere l’impossibilità a presenziare il giorno dell’evento o l’impossibilità di sostenere le spese che il ruolo comporta sarà sufficiente parlarne a cuore aperto con la sposa comunicando i propri dubbi e problemi.

 

According to Wedding Etiquette, once accepted, may I pull myself back from being Maid of Honor realizing the financial expense this role implies?

This is a tough point…

Turning down the request of becoming Maid of Honor or Bridesmaid is always a hard move and puts you in a very delicate position.

With this demand the bride is showing you all her love, her respect and esteem and, among all the guests, she wants personally You to cover this special role n her life! Declining this invitation puts you in a tough position. But even worse could be when you’ve once accepted already and then you realize you don’t feel like assuming this responsibility any more.

First of all, we may say, that if the bride turned directly to You this demand, this should mean there’s an intimate and strong relationship between the future spouse and you. So, if you realize that you won’t be able to attend the Wedding for a really important and unexpected event, you must tell the bride in time! And if the problem consists in the financial expenses you would have to cover, you should also talk to the bride about this problem. I’m pretty sure you’re going to figure out a smart solution together and solve it out quickly!

Party Wedding Event

Party Wedding Event

 

Quali sono i miei compiti in quanto Damigella D’Onore?

Le Damigelle normalmente assistono la sposa durante tutto il planning del matrimonio, aiuteranno la sposa nella scelta dell’abito perfetto, seguiranno le indicazioni della sposa per ciò che riguarda la scelta del proprio outfit (è giusto rispettare i desideri della sposa, dopo tutto sarà lei la festeggiata), e parteciperanno a tutte le feste prematrimoniali e di prova.

Durante il giorno delle nozze, le damigelle dovranno comportarsi da padrone di casa facendo attenzione che tutti i dettagli siano a posto e che tutto proceda secondo i piani.

 

Which are the Bridesmaid’s duties?

Bridesmaids, and especially the Maid of Honor, are supposed not only to assist the bride in every moves she makes on the Big Day but also helping her with all the planning prior to the Wedding as well: this means following the bride and helping her finding the perfect Wedding Dress, helping her with the selection of the best venue and with all the following decisions regarding the planning. Maids should also follow the brides suggestions in the selection of their own outfit for the Big Day (this is a pretty important point; having all bridesmaids dressed alike makes a really gorgeous effect in the picks. In Italy this aspect is not really part of the culture yet but more and more often we tend to see this costume making its way!) 

On the Wedding Day, bridesmaids are supposed to be really keen in helping the bride with whatever she needs and entertain all the guests as well. Taking care that everything proceeds smoothly is an other important duty bridesmaids should be aware of! 

 

Party Event Wedding

Party Event Wedding